Oct 29, 2020
Rob and Tami discuss how to best keep boundaries with your mother, how to work through betrayal as a betrayed spouse in a way that encourages your addict to be honest with you, and Rob explains how sexuality works and why you might be attracted to men vs. not.
TAKEAWAYS:
[0:45] How can I communicate my boundaries without making it into a threat?
[7:25] There are three rules you want to keep in mind when you want to make it work and there’s been a betrayal in the relationship. Dr. Rob explains.
[9:50] How do I set boundaries with my mother who subjected me to covert incest?
[15:05] Can a man be bi or gay without being sexually aroused by male bodies?
[21:45] My wife caught me and is now hypersensitive to stress. How long will this last?
[28:20] My boyfriend has a porn addiction. What’s next?
RESOURCES:
Email Tami: Tami@Seekingintegrity.com
Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency Book by Robert Weiss
Sex Addiction 101: A Basic Guide to Healing from Sex, Porn, and Love Addiction by Robert Weiss
Cruise Control Book by Robert Weiss
QUOTES:
- “My focus in early recovery would be if he is being honest with me. Is he talking regularly about what he’s doing in therapy?”
- “You can’t fix your wife. You can only work on your addiction and your healing so that you’re aren’t showing up being the betrayer over and over again.”
- “We knew what we were doing. We chose what we wanted to say to our spouses and hide.”
- “We kept this a secret from them and we worked hard at it. It’s often a tremendous shock to your spouse and we need to give them the grace at the time to be angry and hurt for a while.”