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Sex, Love, and Addiction


Aug 29, 2019

Dr. Sonnee Weedn, Ph.D., is a clinical and forensic psychologist in private practice in Novato, CA with a newly added satellite office in her hometown of Newport Beach, CA. She is also the author of Many Blessings and a contributor to Making Advances. Dr. Weedn joins the show to talk about the 8 Ways to Wellbeing For Recovering People Workbook, and how her work with Dr. Walsh led her to pull together these foundational habits that create profound results for those in healing and recovery. Dr. Weedn names the 8 ways to wellbeing, and actionable ways we can get started in moving ahead with each one. 

 

TAKEAWAYS:

[5:20] Dr. Weedn was asked to present at the Tibetan Medical Conference, and she thought long and hard about how to best inform an International audience made up of many types of culture. She was previously introduced to the work of Dr. Roger Walsh, a professor at UC Irvine Medical School, and realized how his evidence-based research could very much work for those in recovery. 

[6:23] Lifestyle habits are foundational to support both our physical and mental health. 

[10:03] These healthy lifestyle habits are cross-culturally relevant, and anyone can do them at little cost. It’s also important for people to note that they won’t see drastic change all at once. The point is not to get overwhelmed, it’s to make little changes here and there that will bring their emotional life into as much balance as possible. 

[13:55] The 8 Ways to Wellbeing: 

  1. Nutrition. Having good, nutritious and pure food is important. Read food labels and feed yourself well. Good nutrition is so important for recovery from any malady, physical or mental. 
  2. Exercise. Exercise keeps the brain healthy and the blood pumping. We are meant to move every day, and even just a brisk walk is a great start. 
  3. Relaxation. Dr. Weedn refers to it as rest without sleeping, and something that takes us away from the hustle and bustle and creates a sense of peace and mindfulness. 
  4. Recreation. This aspect is important, especially for people with addiction. 
  5. Relationship. May be the most important in terms of mental health. The more positive interactions we have, the better off we will be mentally. Good relationship skills can be learned over time. 
  6. Time in nature. Nature is healing. Get outdoors every day. 
  7. Giving back. A spirit of altruism reminds us that there is life beyond us. 
  8. Spiritual Practice that is definable. Whether it’s religious or you make up your own, it needs to emphasize love, acceptance, generosity and meaning. 

 

[31:48] It’s all about accountability, and holding the space for yourself and others to do the work. In the workbook, there are sections where you can name who will hold you accountable. 

 

RESOURCES: 

Sex and Relationship Healing

@RobWeissMSW

Sex Addiction 101 

Cruise Control: Understanding Sex Addiction in Gay Men 

Prodependence: Moving Beyond Codependency

Rob@sexandrelationshiphealing.com

Dr. Sonnee Weedn 

Eight Ways to Wellbeing

Angeles Arrien 

8 Ways to Wellbeing YouTube 

drsonnee@aol.com

Dr. Roger Walsh 

Tibetan Medical Conference 

 

QUOTES:

  • “Our daily healthy habits support our mental and physical health.” 
  • “We have to feed people well in order to help them heal.” 
  • “This is the work of a lifetime, and it doesn’t happen in 30 days of treatment.” 
  • “Nature is always changing, and it’s a good place for us to be when we are in change.”